It is 1 of life's cruellest jokes that guys reach their sexual peak at 18, and girls typically take till aged 30 or later to get to theirs. This discrepancy sounds like a formula for heterosexual stress until you realize that sexual peak has nothing to do with how great a lover you are. That ability comes with experience and caring - and that increases with age, says Dr. Saul H. Rosentha
24 Jan 2018
It is 1 of life's cruellest jokes that guys reach their sexual peak at 18, and girls typically take till aged 30 or later to get to theirs. This discrepancy sounds like a formula for heterosexual stress until you realize that sexual peak has nothing to do with how great a lover you are. That ability comes with experience and caring - and that increases with age, says Dr. Saul H. Rosenthal, medical director of the Sexual Therapy Clinic of San Antonia and author of Sex Over Forty.
Cultivating experience requires an intermingling of the physical, emotional and intellectual. You have to be aware of what's going on in your body and your partner's body, You need to adapt to these changes with a willing and enthusiastic use of your imagination and a spirit of innovation. At the pinnacle of sexuality, a twenty-year- old guy produces about a teaspoon of semen a day, he can get aroused just by thinking about sex, and aroused once again only minutes after orgasm, thanks to his high level of testosterone. ten years later, the level has begun a gradual decline, by age 40 many guys require more direct stimulation during foreplay to get an erection. At 50, semen manufacturing might be significantly less than half of what it was at twenty and at 60 some men normally ejaculate only 1 out of every two or 3 times they have intercourse. After 70, the refractory period - the time it takes to obtain an erection again after climaxing - lengthens. What took one to two minutes at 17 will take one or two days by 70.
Among ladies, production of the female sex hormone, oestrogen, reaches its peak at age thirty, bringing with it quick vaginal lubrication, increased desire and much more intense orgasms. At 40, a woman is still capable of conceiving, but a decade later, she will most likely be approaching or have gone through menopause, during which hormone levels decline drastically.
Menopause creates physical changes in the vagina, including dryness and fragility, but normal sexual activity apparently reduces this condition. Relieved of worry about pregnancy, many women find intercourse more pleasurable. At sixty, a woman's orgasms might be much more frequent than earlier in life, says Dr. Helen Singer Kaplan, director of the Human Sexuality Program at The New York Hospital-Cornell Medical Centre, because female orgasm is, in part, "a learning process." The male and female physiological changes that take place with age provide a fertile ground for a more leisurely enjoyment of sex, When people are youthful, intercourse tends to be urgent and explosive. It's concerned largely with physical satisfaction and, in many cases, the conception of kids. This is biological and instinctive - and wonderfully thrilling. But sexual intercourse is not just a matter of athletics and production. With age sex develops into this emotional and communicative as well as physical act and studies by Dr. William H. Masters and Virginia Johnson of the Masters Johnson Institute in St. Louis suggest that sexual satisfaction in middle age is the best barometer of lifelong pleasure. Intercourse is a natural function and Just because we age does not mean we stop functioning effectively. 70 percent of people in their 70s engage in intercourse frequently and today's emphasis on fitness and health may possibly exaggerate our expectations of future sex.